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Steam Valves
Everybody needs time alone. In fact, I think most everyone needs much more time alone than we allow ourselves, which is how we get into tussles with one another in the first place. Planning time alone is the first line of defense against silly squabbles that are simply the result of too much input.
Another way to go about this is to plan steam valves for yourself. Lots of people love to play competitive sports games—they act as a release of energy. Others love to curl up with a book and a cup of tea. Also a steam valve. Others like to play games on their computers.
It doesn’t really matter what you use to let off steam, but it really matters that you have opportunities to do so. Life is pressured these days, more than ever. We need to be able to let go those pressures as often as we need to.
The steam valve technique most often requires that we negotiate skillfully about time. Only you know how much time it really takes for you to unwind. Once you know that, it is your sacred duty to ask for what you need and figure out a way to get it.
I have a friend who works in an extremely pressured work environment. He finally figured out that he needs an hour of silence when he gets home from work so he can be attentive to his wife and children. It took some time but they all figured out that everyone benefited in that hour he needed, and everyone was happier including my friend.
Only you know when you’ve had it. Taking good care of yourself is part of showing up for your loved ones.
For spiritual nourishment, visit Dr. Susan Corso’s website and blog, Seeds for Sanctuary. Follow her on Twitter @PeaceCorso and Friend her on Facebook. And discover your own Inner Peace at, To Me Peace Is … What is Peace to You?